I watched a movie a few days ago that could serve well as an extended, commercial Public Service Announcement.
If you haven’t seen it already, I recommend you watch “Lars and the Real Girl,” written by Nancy Oliver, who also was a writer for one of my favorite TV shows, “Six Feet Under.” Not only is the plot of “Lars” outstanding, but the acting performances are perfect and the music is beautifully fitting.
People could learn so much from the film. It encapsulates feelings of grief, trauma, awkwardness, patience, compassion, acceptance and love.
Three days after watching it, I still can’t stop thinking about it, and I wonder why there aren’t more flicks like it, where all people are good, where there’s no battle between hero and villain. “Lars” is endearing and tender and instills in us the faith that we can be cured with kindness.
Without giving too much away, the movie is about an introverted man named Lars who quasi-lives with his brother, Gus, and Gus’ wife, Karin. Just around the time the couple find out they are pregnant, Lars introduces them to his girlfriend, Bianca â€” a life-sized sex doll made of silicone. But Bianca isn’t a sex toy for Lars; she is his girlfriend â€” he talks to her, cares for her and loves her like a dear friend. This obviously alarms Gus and Karin over their loved one’s mental well-being, and the situation also threatens their comfortable, perfect life. The remainder of the film focuses on Lars’ recovery from whatever illness he’s enduring. While he works to better himself with the help of Dr. Dagmar, his family and townspeople work to better themselves.
This film is a testament to the healing powers of love and compassion, two traits that everyone â€” myself included â€” could stand to solidify. But most importantly, it shows just how counterproductive rejection and judgment can be.