Let your light shine
Saturday, October 17th, 2009“While popularly regarded as the Festival of Lights, the most significant meaning of Diwali is the awareness of one’s own inner light.â€
“While popularly regarded as the Festival of Lights, the most significant meaning of Diwali is the awareness of one’s own inner light.â€
Call me what you will, but there are days when I don’t want to share my husband with anybody, not his clients nor his friends, not even his family.
Because after 40-plus-hour workweeks and agendas and impromptu errands and frenetic meal preparations and follow-up chores and ladies nights one evening and tennis matches the next and, oh yeah, sleep, I am territorial about my time with my spouse. In fact, if it weren’t such a crazy move, I’d post a big “Do Not Disturb” sign outside our front door because that’s how much I mean it.
I love Ben because he gets this.
This past weekend, seeing that I was in need of mellow couple time, he took me out on dates. Dates that included sushi, “Julie & Julia,” an art fair, Nutella and a lazy drive one night; and beers, burgers, a nighttime stroll and reminiscing on another.
As I waited to fall asleep late Sunday, I felt like my heart was going to explode from contentment and gratitude. And that is precisely why I married him.
It may not seem like much to you, but the 16th of each month is a momentous day.
It is the one day that I am sure to hear from my mom, who sends me a sweet, celebratory note commemorating the birth of her daughter — Minal — and the arrival of a son — Ben.
See. Momentous.
In mid-September, I will finally fly out to California to visit my family, friends and the place I grew up. I haven’t done so since getting married last November.
Yet I still find myself describing San Jose as “home,” this after two moves, about 2,000 miles and nearly seven years of living anywhere but there.
So it got me thinking: I wonder when the shift occurs — when people stop referring to their past as their present.
To every lovesick woman who believes she can fix her broken man:
You will fail.
Trust me.
Now save yourself.