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    Pity party

    Tuesday, September 22nd, 2009

    For someone who is big on doing nothing during her time off, I certainly did a bunch this weekend.

    Trips to California do that; they’re never boring, and it’s during those trips that I remember just how many people I am connected to and how good it feels to be surrounded by those who understand you and your context.

    I’m coping with that familiar melancholy that comes after saying goodbye (again) to my relatives and close friends out West — there’s just no one in St. Louis who compares to my crew of parents, aunts, uncles, cousins and friends.

    But there’s a reason for that.

    I’d be lying if I said the few(er), sometimes shallow relationships I have in St. Louis weren’t my own fault. One minute I am bragging about my preference to spend normal evenings and weekends at home doing nothing, and in the next breath I allude to the lack of connections I’ve made here in my new home city. And yet all this time the correlation had escaped me …

    Date nights

    Monday, September 14th, 2009

    Call me what you will, but there are days when I don’t want to share my husband with anybody, not his clients nor his friends, not even his family.

    Because after 40-plus-hour workweeks and agendas and impromptu errands and frenetic meal preparations and follow-up chores and ladies nights one evening and tennis matches the next and, oh yeah, sleep, I am territorial about my time with my spouse. In fact, if it weren’t such a crazy move, I’d post a big “Do Not Disturb” sign outside our front door because that’s how much I mean it.

    I love Ben because he gets this.

    This past weekend, seeing that I was in need of mellow couple time, he took me out on dates. Dates that included sushi, “Julie & Julia,” an art fair, Nutella and a lazy drive one night; and beers, burgers, a nighttime stroll and reminiscing on another.

    As I waited to fall asleep late Sunday, I felt like my heart was going to explode from contentment and gratitude. And that is precisely why I married him.

    Sweet 16

    Thursday, July 16th, 2009

    It may not seem like much to you, but the 16th of each month is a momentous day.

    It is the one day that I am sure to hear from my mom, who sends me a sweet, celebratory note commemorating the birth of her daughter — Minal — and the arrival of a son — Ben.

    See. Momentous.

    Since last time I …

    Thursday, December 11th, 2008
    • drank too many margaritas at my bachelorette party.
    • damned the creep who dented my parked car.
    • married Benny Sheps.
    • bought a house.
    • hyphenated my last name.
    • ate just one helping of turkey.
    • thanked God I wasn’t living in the apartment anymore.
    • wiped water off the floor of a flooded kitchen.
    • warmed up in front of my fireplace twice.
    • drained water out of a flooding basement.
    • met three handymen.
    • experienced buyer’s remorse.
    • pored over Consumer Reports recommendations.
    • hugged my very own washer/dryer.
    • tightened up a leaky water faucet.
    • swooned over the water and ice dispenser in my new fridge.
    • shooed cats off kitchen countertops thrice.
    • grimaced over my appearance in wedding photos.
    • incessantly called myself fat.
    • stopped calling myself fat.
    • started working out.
    • cried twice.
    • laughed daily.

    Anew

    Tuesday, June 3rd, 2008

    I’ve felt different since the start of 2008. Better. Creatively charged. Ambitious. Clear. Balanced.

    Balance! I had been looking for it for some time.

    The past two years focused primarily on change: learning, adapting, losing and gaining. And let me tell you, losing when the competition is yourself is the hardest loss to take.

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